Why I love being criticized.
How could I possibly love being criticized?
This is the opposite to the norm.
Do I have sensible, rational reasons?
First off, let’s examine this quote:
The trouble with most of us is that we would rather be ruined by praise than saved by criticism.
Norman Vincent Peale
Mr Peale is known for his positive thinking and wealth of published material on the subject. His is an expert opinion.
Years ago, my father and others criticized me a lot, which had a very bad effect on me. A key reason for this was that I did not know then how to deal with and process criticism.
Criticism is often very destructive and a great power for ills of varied kinds. Unless that is, you know how to turn it into a positive.
These days I have a very strong self esteem, no thanks to my parents or siblings. Having a strong self esteem is a key defense against the negative aspects of criticism.
Additionally, I simply look for the truth in the criticism. Sometimes, there is only a tiny bit, at others there is loads. I know how detrimental hanging onto my own opinion can be. You see, often criticism can help us to see things which we are, or were previously, blind to. As Norman Vincent Peale says, we can be saved by criticism.
I would add that we can be saved by any type of criticism – constructive or destructive – provided we have the right thinking patterns.
You see, even if an enemy criticizes with a nasty, destructive intent, if there is any truth in it then your enemy can be made to help you, usually without his/her knowledge. You grow stronger and wiser, benefiting from the attack and the grains (or more) of truth which help you along your way in life, gaining greater wisdom.
Many businesses shy away from customer criticism for a variety of reasons, yet often there are potential seeds of greatness held within the critical comments made by customers. Criticism can be valuable feedback from the experts in your business – your customers. Contrarian, and correct, thinking is for businesses to welcome criticism. Dare to be different and send a clear message to your customers that you CARE.
In summary; when I am criticized I get busy looking for the truth contained within. Anyone criticizing me is potentially doing me a favor.
Criticism is an opportunity to grow and improve. This subject has a number of deep related and underlying strands, which I have not delved into here. One of these is that when we get defensive, we are losing the plot – missing out on life’s lessons. Life is not about being defensive, it is about growing.
See those who criticize you in a new light.
Enjoy it. Love it. Don’t run with the herd.
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